The Path to our Destiny

I spent more than 20 years as a Recruiter in the Human Resource field, interviewing tens of thousands of unique, wonderful individuals on the path to their destiny, and most of them, were unconscious that they were traveling on this path.  All of those years boil down to a few key pieces of information that I learned about this path and the various stages that we traverse.  This is just the basics understanding.   

The 9 Stages Of Our Careers

Did you know that people average 6 careers in a lifetime, but only plan initially for one?  Just reflecting and answering that question alone, will leave you light-years ahead of most of your friends.  Imagine not having to choose what your career is, but simply learning to accept all aspects, and stages of your career.  Of YOU.

Childhood: This stage is all about development, virtue and becoming acclimated to the human experience.  Our experience here is as healthy as the clarity, dedication, sacrifice and ability of the parenting skills of our parents, guardians, grandparents and family.   We are born knowing how to hate or love.  It is nurtured.  The health of our environment that we are raised in, will offer rewards and trials, no matter what our loved ones do, but either they will be a hero or a villain in your story as you become more aware and a human being. 

Youth: This stage is mostly about exploration and discovery of our culture, DNA, desires, and natural abilities.  While still about development, it is more about growth, aligning with guidance, parental and spiritual, identity, ethics, morals, manners and achieving a balanced education, from formal school and the community.  These foundational and soft skills allow us to be more successful in life and creates a healthy foundation for OUR career for the remainder of our lives.  This is really about learning to accept how cool you are as a human being.  Many youth loose themselves in this stage, in order to follow some other iconic view of what it means to be cool.  They follow lies and imagery attempted to bankroll off of their lack of clarity.  Being different or a nerd is a badge of honor in these times, because you are authentically YOU. 

Early Adulthood: The challenge for this stage is to not be immersed to soon into full adult activities, but most often, we rush into adulthood, because we lose our innocence too quick, because of circumstances out of our control, and lose a valuable opportunity to refine the tools learned in the last stages.  This is a time of establishing connections, friendships, and social skills, that hopefully will culminate into a healthy support structure that can allow you to have witnesses in your life, who can aid you to measure and process your growth as a human being.  You gather a team, who are focused on YOU.  Many times, you will also provide this service to someone else.  BFF is the popular term.  But it is one that is focused on your health and well-being and not just entertainment. 

Unemployment: You will unfortunately experience this stage various times throughout your life but will rarely enjoy it, but there are exceptions.  Sometimes it will be because you are in error and sometimes you will be innocent, but every time it happens is for a good reason.  To detach you from your current path, and send you on another one.  One door has to close for another one to open.  The best way to use this stage is to simplify with minimalism, reflect on what really makes you happy, what you're passionate about, and follow that path with no hesitation or looking back.  This is called following your heart.  We often don't listen to our hearts when things are going great, and so we are forced, to stop and hear, our own selves, through all of the voices, competing for our own attention.  You know you're leaving this stage, when you find a way to trade your time for money.

Job: This stage starts when you become part of the labor pool.  Most places it starts legally at age 16, but many young people in the US and aboard, start working at earlier ages out of necessity, survival or exploitation.  Most people find their first job in the following industries: retail, grocery, manufacturing, food service, customer service or service industry.  Some go to some type of training, such as job corp, internships or an apprenticeship which leads them to the next stage.

Profession: When you finish your foundational education, most people willingly go into this stage because they want to earn a living, to take care of their needs and wants and someday start a family of their own. 

• Profession - this is connected with education, schooling or service of some sort.
• Trade - this is normally attached to a hobby or natural inclination to some craft.
• Calling - this is discovered by trial of many things, and is inherently apart of our destiny.  This normally balances our angst at not being able to do what we love to do only.
• Destiny - it is my opinion that this is found once we give up our Will to God or the Creator.  There are also many pitfalls with acquiring one's destiny but the main one is normally right in front of your face, but seldom seen.  That is your destiny is normally not our choice, and if we are living our destiny but continually striving to find it, we will never truly appreciate it while we are living our purpose.
• Unemployment - most of us will never willingly become unemployed.  But there is a deep purpose for it.  It aids us to appreciate life, to become more humble, more aware, and more perceptive.  We seldom enjoy it and get the true benefit from unemployment because we are focused on getting employed.  The thing is that it is a gift, and a chance to follow our hearts.  We average about 10 times in a lifetime.  It is our shot to really look deep inside of ourselves and reinvent ourselves.  To be brutally honest, to take a good look at our skills, talents, capabilities and potential, combined with our passion, and set a course with a specific goal in mind.